WTF
All I can say is that a natural buddy of mine is having sex with girls that I have tried attracting, and are timid around me. I don’t exude the same charismatic qualities as him because I choose not to be a sex fiend like him. Who do the girls end up having casual sex with? Him. This is also true for girls that say they would never do it.
Even though I’m looking for a nice girl, women are the cause of why I am forced to become more like a Romeo, Casanova, Don Juan De Marco, etc. They say they don’t want to be a “slut” but they will have casual sex with a guy that knows what he’s doing. It doesn’t matter what her mind says, what matters is how she feels, and if she feels sexual, wet, and horny, she will have sex. Even if that’s not what I want (or what I pretend I don’t want), there was a time that I didn’t care, and I was sexual, and got into sexual relations with women. I think I need to become more like that, and not give my time to women that are not into that.
I am not going to apologize to anyone for my desires to have massive attraction. Massive attraction leads to sex, and is caused by status. Status is in result to the charisma, humor, and sexuality of the person. Everyone wants sex, and therefore, sex is justified. In the end, I do want a relationship, but I need to know how to create the attraction that I see my friend building. Women that are nice, that I would assume would like the nice guy, and that I would settle down with, like my friend who is like me in looks and some mannerisms go for him. I was thinking that I need to be a nice guy for girls, even though I’ve been less of that lately, but I’m still being somewhat nice though. I need to have the sexual mentality, and be a good guy, but if I’m not getting what I want, then I shouldn’t waste my time. I’ve also been building on my humor, and that’s something I need to work on. I also am working on my high energy, and not caring about the outcome or not caring about what others think of me mentality, and it’s been working for me.
The thing that will set you apart from many, is when a woman finds you and wants you for you are, no matter what, and the fact that you didn’t have casual sex with so many women (like your friend) will make you that much more of a man.
*from a chicks perspective
I haven’t found a girl like that.
let me just add…the fact that you have all this so thoroughly thoughout also says a lot… in a good way. philosophically even. I think men who don’t REALLY think about it are able to have more casual sex…b/c casual is just that, it’s just casual…not thought about.
I read your blog every now and then but it’s hard to read when text isn’t broken up in to paragraphs.
Could you paragraph your writing in the future.
Dan.
Maybe “they will have casual sex with a guy that knows what he’s doing”, but often they will regret it. Not everyone is emotionally capable of handling casual sex, or the fallout from it (I suspect most people aren’t, even if they think they are, or that they are “supposed to be”).
Sometimes one casual experience is enough to make someone realize it *really* isn’t what they want to be doing:
http://www.ubersite.com/m/30137
Disclaimer: I have never met the woman who wrote this, it’s just something I came across one time while randomly surfing.
(”I had a friend with benefits, now I don’t have a friend at all.”
Knowing you neither are nor want to be a man-slut is a very good place to start if you want something serious
what I think I’m trying to say is that you need to think about whether you really are emotionally capable of being the type of guy thinks of women mainly as sexual playthings. If you’re not, then you’ll end up doing something you’ll regret. You could risk messing things up when you meet the girl you really like. When that happens, having a black address book full of phone numbers of insecure women will count against you.