Live with Passion

There’s a lot of information out there. Learn as much as I can, but take action on it immediately. In anything, I have to have the basics down in order to progress. This is a brief guide on the basics. I credit myself with some of these ideas, but the ideas have been rehashed so many times by so many different people that I can’t really give credit to anyone in particular for them.

MOTIVATION:

The easiest way to get motivated to go out is by actually going outside. Go outside, do some pushups, take a stroll where people hang out, but just get out of the house.

Remember, I’m the only one that will always be there for me, and I’m the only one that knows what I truly want. I don’t want to look back on my life and say that, ‘when I was younger, I should’ve been fearless.’ When you have this action mentality, it’s the doing that is the real payoff.

What motivates me to be successful? The bottom line is, ‘do you want to get laid?’ If you’re reading this, the answer better be ‘yes.’ Improving yourself should be enough of a motivator, if it isn’t enough. One resource that has been useful for me to get motivated, are movies.

Videos:

ABC Primetime Special

Anthony Robbins – The Power of Beliefs

Secrets of Success

Blind Painter

20 minute motivation with Tony Robbins

Rocky Balboa

Girl Shakin Her Ass

The Dream Movie

Being Your Own Guru - Happiness

Randy Pausch Lecture: Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams

Nothing Can Affect Me – Be Like Superman

Emotional Freedom Technique

AFC Adam – Dance floor Game

Learn To Love People

Steve Jobs Stanford Commencement Speech 2005

In The Scheme of Things, Fear Is Not So Bad After All

Army Chick Dancing

Mystery on Fear

Keys To The VIP – Leo vs Donnie pt 3

Keys To The VIP – Leo vs Donnie pt 4

Keys To The VIP – S. 1 Ep 2 pt 4

Destroy Your Approach Anxiety

The Secret Riches Visualization Tool

Anthony Robbins on CNN

Larry King interviews John Assaraf

Julie Moss – Ironman Legend

Loverboy Tribute #1

Loverboy Tribute #2

Hoobie Tribute

Dustin Carter Session

Paul Potts Inspirational Video

Russel Brand is Very Animated

James Corden hitting on Lily Allen

Need a laugh?

Honor, Courage, Commitment

If I could do this, I could easily game a chick.

Women are sexual as fuck

AMOG keeping frame

Alpha Male trying to game

Pushing your comfort zone

Poolhall Junkies - Motivating

Program yourself

Change your reality

Living in your own reality

Funny Alpha Guido

Miami Comics – Humor

Robbie Williams with full Nimbus

Another Inspirational Story

David Deangelo – Approaching in Bars and Clubs

Brent – On being the Mayor

Attract Women Without Words

Carlos Xuma – Quality Women

Energy Manipulation – State

Fearless with a Cobra

Mehoh – Infield: Visibly Attracted

Another Girl Dancing Sexy for Validation

I’ve made a collage of successful people to remind myself that anyone can take action on the things they want in life in order to lead an extraordinary life. Be who you were meant to be – your best self. Use these people as motivation but don’t become them.

Another way to use other people to my advantage is to go out with people that are better than me. Be a high-value and high-status guy that they want to hang out with. Use their skill and enthusiasm to help get pumped up.

Braddock from TMM told me that he used affirmations and quotes to motivate him. Here are some of the quotes that motivate me:

• “Since starting the game I’ve never really had AA, I just don’t suffer from it. My desire to succeed outweighed my fear of rejection. … When I first started in the game my desire to succeed outweighed my AA consequently I opened everything not with the aim of getting the girl but with the aim of learning what WOULDN’T work. Therefore I was outcome independent. I am beginning to understand just how much this was a key area of my own development.” - AFC Adam

• “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” Malay Quote

• “When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you and be a loser…Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure.” Mary Kay Ash

• “I always had a dream - that I would not be mediocre in this regard. And I think there are too many folks out there that just let that dream die, and just go on meeting the same type of woman, or what have you. And it’s quite of depressing. The guys that really get good at this, in education, concrete goals, and a timeline for achieving those goals. There are people that are doers and others that just don’t do anything with their life.” – Jeffy

• “I was a doer. I would take action even when every ounce in my body was telling me to stop and is not worth it. somehow I knew that to get something done you needed to take action and have a plan. This is what happened. I succeeded this way. Yes, you can succeed despite of yourself if you act and have a plan. Yet this is not real success. … To be truly successful you have to be successful in all areas of your life. Then you are a successful person. One of the areas is mental cleanliness. … Being inspired to higher personal goals will soothe you and calm you down.” – Ozzie

• “The last three or four reps is what makes the muscles grow. This area of pain divides a champion from someone who is not a champion. That’s what most people lack, having the guts to go on and just say they’ll go through the pain no matter what happens.” - Arnold Schwarzenegger

• “What is it that keeps you from having what you want? What fear is it? Fear of rejection? Fear of failure? Fear of disappointment? Fear of success? What is it? If you want to break through it, you’re the only one stopping you.” - Tony Robbins

• “I walk around in a perpetual state of arousal, I will fuck anything that catches my eye. I feel like a fucking SHARK with a boner.” – Jeffy

• “The wall is there to keep all of those who don’t want it badly enough OUT. I however am the superstar, and will find a way to continue forward and make it past that wall.” - Randy Pausch

• “To be always intending to make a new and better life but never to find time to set about it is as to put off eating, drinking, and sleeping from one day to the next until you’re dead.” - Og Mandino

• “I am about to put forward some major ideas; they will be heard and pondered. If not all of them please, surely a few will; in some sort, then, I shall have contributed to the progress of our age, and shall be content.” - Donatien Alphonse-François de Sade

• “Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.” - Lin Yutang

• “When the Student is Ready, the Teacher Will Appear” - Lao Tzu

• “Who are we? We find that we live on an insignificant planet of a humdrum star lost in a galaxy tucked away in some forgotten corner of a universe in which there are far more galaxies than people.” - Carl Sagan

• “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin

• “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

• “At one point in your life you either have the thing you want or the reasons why you don’t” - Andy Roddick

GOALS:

Everyone has different goals in life; different things they want. With me, I want to be the best at pickup; I truly do want to be great at this. I want to become the best not for a specific title, or to have fame, or to have people look up to me; I want to be the best because I want to have the same skill that the best have; I want to pickup a girl at anytime, in any place. I always strive to my maximum potential to be a better man. This is something that I really enjoy doing.

The more you are focused on your goals, the more you will get what it is you want. Here are the 4 ways to create goals:

1. Write your goal in the positive.

2. Write your goals in complete detail.

3. Write your goals down in the present tense, first person, as if they are currently true.

4. Rewrite your goals until you can feel that they’re inspiring.

After we write down our goals, we want to have an outcome-focused, purpose-driven action plan. Here is the ultimate success formula:

1. Know your outcome

2. Know the reasons why. Why is this outcome a must for you?

   1. What would happen if you don’t do this now?

   2. Why must I do this now?

3. Take massive action – break it down into sub-goals or sub-actions.

4. Know what you are getting.

5. If it isn’t working, try something else.

Another good thing is to know what type of girls you like. If you know what type of girl you like, you can form a clear idea of what you want and what you don’t want in a girl that way you can make a better decision with what it is you want. It’s good to be social in general and not attach any specific outcome to a specific girl, but have an idea of what kind of girl you want.

I love women. I love all kinds of women. With me, I want a well-rounded woman. She has to be somewhat in shape, and has to be naturally attractive. I really like brown-eyed straight-haired-brunettes. I want a girl that knows how to be sexy. I love it when a girl is ambitious and motivated to push themselves. I love a girl that’s into self-improvement. I love a girl that can be genuine with me; one that doesn’t put a front on. I like it when a girl has some type of creatively intelligent side. Generally, I see that with her wit and humor. I love a girl that’s animated or more so playful. I like a girl that takes care of herself. I love a girl that’s independent, but not too independent. I think the perfect balance of the two is very attractive.

I am in this because I want abundance and choice to have someone I really want in my life. I want to be able to have the skills. I find this fun and interesting. I get a kick out of it whenever things work, and when things don’t, I use them as positive learning experiences. I am deeply passionate about this, and so I’m in a position where I must do these things, and so instead of waiting for perfection, or waiting for the right time, or waiting to do a 30-day mission, I must approach more and interact with people, and immediately try out everything I read. There’s power in momentum.

FEAR:

I want to get to a point where I’m fearless. I know that whenever I have an excuse for my inaction, or fear, it can be smashed. Fear comes from a place of need. If I don’t need something from you, I shouldn’t have any fear.

I think it’s very important to go deep into an understanding of why we have the fears we have, and to further understand why we have it, that way we can figure out ways to destroy it in order to improve our game. The reality of the situation is that it doesn’t really matter what happens, nor does it matter what people thinks of me. Either way, I learn and improve.

In the past, I’ve used the ‘fuck-it’ mentality, which is similar to the Mystery Method 3-second-rule. If I have any idea of something I should do, I automatically have the ‘fuck-it’ mentality switch on, and I do whatever it is I should do. I don’t give a fuck. Do it.

Preparation definitely minimizes fear. Before going out, prepare by motivating yourself, get into the proper mindset, and practice, or simply having something to say for the approach. Have a goal/action plan in motion, but don’t plan for perfection – just have a simple but concrete plan.

A good way to get over fear is by progressively desensitizing yourself to whatever situation you are fearful of. The more I do things where I am forced to be on the spotlight, the more I can perform in those situations. For example, a student can’t back out of giving the speech. Even if the speech turns out to be bad, they must give it. A baby may be scared to walk on its own, but needs the training, and eventually it will get there, but the baby has to try to get to that point where it can walk despite his or her fears.

Braddock from The Mystery Method came to speak for free for the South Florida Lair. Among the many things he spoke about, one of the things was about being a caveman (not in the go caveman sense). He said, “Be the caveman: A caveman doesn’t have a mirror. He doesn’t know what he looks like. And the death rate was very high back then. They had to do whatever they could to survive. Be the caveman.” The history of the ‘fear of the approach’ is a lengthy topic, but the gist of what Braddock was saying is that there should be a sense of necessity to approach rather than letting the fear take over.

Realizations of fear from Neale Donald Walsh

1. It’s not real; you’re making it all up.

2. If the thing you’re afraid of happening, actually did happen, you would still be here which makes it have absolutely no difference at all.

3. Change fear into an adventure, and then your life will be more inspiring and full of excitement.

A good way to make fear seem ridiculous is to blow my fears and insecurities out of proportion. Make them seem even greater than they are. Look at the overblown ridiculousness of it, and laugh at it. Know that the fear is ridiculous and don’t let it stop you.

What would I do if you KNEW you couldn’t fail?

This whole game is about having the balls to take humiliation.

INNER GAME:

Humans have the ability to adapt to situations. If we’re put in social situations over and over again, we’re going to change. Rejection is something that we have to get used to so that we know how to deal with it. It might suck, but inner game is all about developing our inner selves. Those changes need to be made a deep level in order to become the person who you want to be. That’s why you MUST go out and expose yourself to rejection and failure. And yes, it is painful, but you MUST push yourself in order to get that deep identity level change.

Having a deep desire to improve one’s self, the proper beliefs and mindset, and the habit of going out and improving definitely helps build confidence. A strong and deep desire will constantly push us in the right direction to get what we want. We naturally have a system where we try to prove that our beliefs are correct. If we ingrain ourselves with the proper beliefs (by catching our negative beliefs and replacing it with positive ones), we start developing a belief system where we naturally start proving that our ‘new’ beliefs are true.

It used to be hard for me to believe that women wanted me. Sometime I might not approach because I believe the woman might not want me. It doesn’t matter though. What if I were to get a good reaction? What if the woman wants me bad right now? Women have wanted me, and will keep on wanting me. I should expect a good reaction, because any reaction is better than my inaction. And for every excuse not to do something, there are plenty of reasons to do it.

Make a list of positive qualities and use it as a reference as to why you’re a great guy. For me, I have so much going for me, it’s amazing (i.e. improvement, military, intelligence, friends, family that cares, experiences, passions, ideas, etc). A good way to figure out what qualities you have is like this. Take out a pen and paper and answer these question:

1. If I went on a really big TV show where I had to be a loser to get on the show, what bad qualities could I say that would help me get cast?

2. If I went on a famous TV show where I had to be a stud or have some good qualities to be cast, what good qualities could I say that would help me get cast?

3. If Kim Kardashian said something like, “I want you, but give me 3 good reasons why I should get with you,” what would you say?

The reason why these questions are important to answer is so that it gets you thinking and acknowledging the good qualities you have. You don’t need to use your qualities as validation mechanisms for others to validate you (like in the Kim Kardashian question). The questions are meant for you to realize what you’ve got and to use them as empowering tools. After you write down the list of bad qualities, figure out ways to smash those limiting beliefs, or figure out how you can change those limiting or negative beliefs into something positive. Remember out of these exercises you want to empower yourself by focusing on the positive qualities that you like within yourself.

We have those qualities that will give us the success that we want, but they’re not at the magnitude that they should be at. I’m listing some of the qualities that I want to ingrain into myself in order to absorb the qualities that I want. Some of those qualities are: Being high-energy, playful, positive, having a core-confidence, witty, funny, animated, having a strong sexual presence, loud, social, talkative, cool, have depth, adventurous, intelligent, creative, alpha, strong, decisive, etc.

Have a friend barrage me with insults. Don’t let him question it. Just have him do it. Learn to deal with it and be nonreactive to it. This will help give me a strong sense of reality. This is just another inner-game technique to develop that core-confidence and that masculine-core.

Affirmations are not the same as goals, but can be. The mindset, values, beliefs, attitudes, rules, and attributes that accompany these affirmations are what I want to ingrain into me. These are my rules for a life worth living:

1. I have a relentless drive to succeed. A successful person finds many more reasons to go for what he wants.

2. The only sure-fire way to succeed and get laid often is by approaching an ASSLOAD of sets.

3. Just say ‘Fuck it.’ Don’t think about it – just DO it.

4. Be in a constant state of horniness; have a high sex drive.

5. I act through my own intentions. A person with STRONG intentions gets things done. I do things for myself, not for or because of others.

6. I am COMPLETELY outcome independent, and I absolutely don’t care what other people think of me.

7. I have the blood of champions in me.

8. I totally do not give a fuck.

9. There is only the present moment; the NOW.

10. I learn something every time. Every rejection becomes a brick in my palace.

11. I have 10 game. Believe it.

12. Just close motherfucker! CLOSE! Run the train. Go for the kiss. Do it again.

13. Amazing attitude = amazing results

14. Meeting people excites me.

15. Always be in set.

16. Hey, I’m something worth taking a closer look at. I know this based on my preparation, skills, and past successes. If I present her with a diamond, and she doesn’t want it, give it to someone that’ll appreciate it.

17. The ladies man wants to spend time with women and be around women often.

18. Crash the car, or else you’ll never know how fast you could go.

19. Always be “ON.”

20. Staring down fear builds character.

21. I am going to get good at this. I am not going to let fear and inaction screw me over. The pain from not having what I want drives me. I get pleasure by going for what I want in life.

22. I enjoy talking to anyone and everyone at anytime, in any place, and in any situation.

23. Step up as a man.

24. I look into the face of fear and dominate it.

25. Success lies within Action.

26. Be Drunk with Joy.

27. Draw state from within.

28. Anything and everything is possible.

29. I don’t apologize for who I am.

30. I thoroughly enjoy taking action, taking initiative, and being proactive.

31. Be socially proactive and high-energy.

32. Change her mood; not her mind.

33. Confidence is key.

34. Laughter is very powerful.

35. High risk; high reward.

36. I have nothing to lose, and I only stand only to gain.

37. I live in abundance and don’t need any particular girl.

38. I must absolutely be willing to walk away.

39. My future is glorious. Think glorious thoughts, and I’ll have a glorious future.

40. Sex is sex; it’s no big deal.

41. Always lead the interaction.

42. Focus on her lips around 80% of the time.

43. I enjoy making people feel good.

44. Blow me, or blow me out.

45. I am the prize and this is MY reality. Everyone has to prove themselves to me.

46. Assume attraction and assume the close.

47. Embrace positivity and have a positive outlook.

48. I expect excellence out of myself.

49. I love myself, I love others, and others love me.

50. It’s time for a fuckin change, and I’m ready for it.

51. This is so EASY!!

52. I am always seeking a greater level of success.

53. Only focus on the solutions.

54. We attract what we subconsciously think we deserve.

OUTER GAME:

In the American Pimp documentary, recommended by David Deangelo, there was a pimp in there that mentioned that it took him three hours to get ready before he went out in the morning. He said that he had a persona to keep and so he’d put the work into his look everyday.

Some basic things that can be done without spending too much money is getting the teeth whitened, getting some type of look and clothing that puts your image in the sex-worthy guy category, getting something done with your hair, working-out to stay in shape, to get toned, and to feel good. When I look in the mirror and see someone handsome. The persona you give off is what’s sexy. Tyler Durden says that if you’re comfortable with your looks you’re good.

STATE:

State is a decision. It’s a decision where you stop tolerating bullshit from yourself. It’s a standard where you say enough is enough. When you notice some negative thoughts, just say, “fuck that” and decide to go into state – and you’ll go.

Another great way to get into state is by being talkative. Talk to everyone. Make comments to people or about people. Talk to people as much as possible, and you’ll notice that you’re in state.

Draw state from within.

Visualize the person I want to become and exactly how that person would react in situations. Feel what they feel. See what they see. Smell what they smell. This is a simple technique used on stage by actors to get themselves in state before going on stage, because they have to be in state before the stage even though the stage can get them into state.

Listening to music and even singing it can definitely help with getting into state.

Music:

Young Jeezy – Go Getta

R Kelly – I’m A Flirt

Fatboy Slim – Right Here, Right Now

Coldplay – Don’t Panic

Sixx:A.M. - Life is Beautiful

Buckcherry – Crazy Bitch

Survivor – Burning Heart

James Brown & Pavarotti – This is a Mans World

Lupe Fiasco - Superstar

Pittsburgh Slim - Girls Kiss Girls

504 boyz – I can tell

Yves La Rock - Rise Up

DJ Tiesto – Just Be

Unkle – Rabbit in your Headlights

ACTION:

Do things on my own intention, and don’t look to others to do things. I have the instantaneous action mentality. If I have any inclination to do something, immediately do it. Do it now, not later. My actions create the life I live. Don’t think about it, do it. Be relentless. Push past my comfort zone. I am empowered to automatically and confidently do whatever it is I fear knowing that I only stand to gain. Give 100% of myself at all times. I have a burning desire to succeed in life. High risk, high reward. Take initiative and be proactive with what I want, because taking any type of action is better than not taking any action at all. Never accept second-rate behavior from myself. I will not be mediocre in this regard. I have a desire to be successful. There’s nothing that holds me back. I’m always moving forward with positive momentum. I expect more out of myself than anyone could possibly expect. At my core, I’m a leader. I want to have a life that I want to live. All my issues in life, all my problems, and my obstacles, are indicators for taking action. Push myself constantly. I enjoy taking action often, and am motivated by the results. Take immediate action. Take massive action. There’s power in momentum. Anytime I have an inclination to do something, do it! Build my action muscle.

Some of the best guys understood that going out often would help them out. Tony Robbins would say, “Take massive action” and the ‘gurus’ understood this. Tyler Durden went out 1000 nights consecutively. And Sinn has said, “The people that go out on Sunday will be the ones that get good.” It’s not just with going out that one gets good. Success lies within action. What you do when you go out matters the most. Are you pushing past your comfort zone? Sinn got into the game when he was 21. He’s my age now. Extramask touched his first girl and had his first lay when he was 26. There are no excuses at all. People are getting this part of their lives handled, and that should motivate you.

APPROACH:

If you approach, you increase your ability to meet someone new by a lot.

Approach, and open with anything. Use a pre-opener if necessary (i.e. Do you guys know where the Florida Room is?).

Pickup is a screening process. What does this girl have going for her? I want to find out if she can handle me. Is this a girl that I want in my life?

It’s important for me to set some standards for myself. This is how I see my angle of approaching. Talk to anyone. Game any girl I might decide to fuck, generally 6s and above. Game 7s and 8s but put some more effort to convert them to fbs. Convert 8+’s to gfs. And convert 7+’s to friends in order to get a better social circle.

GETTING BETTER:

There are quite a number of ways to get better. Since this is write-up just outlines the basics, I recommend going out with guys that are better than you. Yes, it’s going to force you to man-up and offer value rather than take value, but it’s something that you have to learn. Many people that are good don’t have time to deal with you if you don’t offer value. That’s why I strongly suggest going out with guys that are good, offer value, and learn from them by doing and taking action. Be the observed, not the observer.

I want to leave off with a post from Ozzie:

“Fail big, fail large, fail deep, fail now, fail all night…fail on camera. Go fail. Fail. I am serious.

It is the little failures that bother us deep inside.

Fail large, fail all night. Do the big ass sets that you know you can not handle, get a jealous boyfriend chasing you around the club because you tried to fuck his girlfriend, get thrown out of the club for using the claw too much.

Fail.

Open and fail big.

Get sick and tired of being sick and tired.” - Ozzie

I’m trying to identify this song or song remix. If anyone has any ideas or have heard this before somewhere let me know where. Thanks!

The song is on this Tantra Chair website.

I was on this page for some reason… oh yeah, because I was reading about Miami Velvet and figuring that it would be cool to get sponsored.

Anyways, the song lyrics goes something like this:

Save me
If you could seep into my dreams
Would you believe it’s meant to be
I’m out of control
Never gonna let it go
Until the day
Never gonna let it go
Maybe it’s crazy … undecipherable
I’m out of control
Are you gonna save me

If you’ve heard of something like this, let me know!

Morality or immorality - that is the question.

Recently I’ve had the opportunity to do things that others may consider immoral. I consider some of those things to be moral. Now I won’t get into the details of it, but what exactly is moral. I’m a Gemini and I also just happen to have the personality of where I am usually in the center of things. I believe that both sides of an argument have equally valid points.

If a married woman wants to have sex with me, why shouldn’t I do it? Is it really that immoral for me to do something like that? Why is it immoral? Maybe it is a good thing because I get to satisfy the woman. If she’s not being satisfied like she should, either someone else will come along, or she’ll eventually have problems. This isn’t always the case. But as Zan says, to paraphrase, every woman at one point in their lives want to feel loved like they’ve never ever felt before.

Is it immoral to have sex with a girl that’s a virgin that tells me she wants to have sex the same night I meet her? Is it immoral for me to have sex with a drunk chick when her and her friend wants me to go back to their house? Where is the line for morality and immorality?

I’ve considered myself a moral person, and I used to be very conservative, especially socially conservative. I am probably a bit more socially liberal now (am middle of the road). Being socially conservative does not equate with having morals. I think nowadays I’ve been pushing the boundaries of what I consider to be moral and immoral. I’m starting to see that certain things that some people in society try to make taboo is not necessarily immoral, it’s just that the supposed ‘moral elite’ of society or that the religious zealots try to push their agenda on others.

Instead of me having this idea that I should limit myself and impose a limiting moral system, I should open myself up to new ideas. I’m not saying that the obvious wrongs are a good thing, but I am saying that something like having sex with a girl I might never see again is not something to shy away from at all.

The scientific method requires that there is a control and the variable. Everything must remain the same while one thing may change.

I have been trying to run solid attraction and comfort game with routines or techniques for a while now. Since I’m a fairly analytical guy, I’m having a hard time having a solid idea of what causes what reaction. Lets assume that I want to figure out attraction game and figure out how to get a girl hardcore interested instead of just passively interested. Everything should remain the same from my end so that I can determine what works and what doesn’t. The thing is, on the girls end, there’s no consistency. The girl could be conservative, or really shy until you get to know her, or a ball of energy, or a nympho, or many other things, and also having a good time, a bad time, and so on.

Okay, so lets assume that we understand that the girl is at different points in her life, it would take calibration to know how to get her to the attraction and comfort level that you want. The thing is, we’re also inconsistent. When I go out I sometimes am high-energy, while at other times funny, and at other times, playful, and at other times fun.

I think the best way to get me to be consistent is to write whatever quality it is that I want or that I am exhibiting, and make a list of qualities that I should have when I go out. That way I can focus on the good and positive qualities of the man I am to become.

My blueprint girl in the looks department looks something like the following pictures I’m going to post up. I’m posting mainly adult film stars because for the most part they know how to be sexy. I want to look at the similarities of these girls to try and figure out what attracts me to them. I love all women though, and so I bet there’s going to be a range of different women that I post here.

Oh and I just want to mention one more thing… As much as body may be important, I’m all about a woman’s facial beauty. I like it when a woman can naturally be attractive without makeup.

Let’s start:

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In the community there’s the necessity to take action. If you want to get better at anything, you need to take action. The thing is, we want to be less invested in the interaction than the chick is. So we must take action simply with the intent of enjoying the process, but have a low-investment in the interaction despite taking action. When the girl really shows that she wants or wanted you (after sex - when she turns off her mask), then we can get emotionally invested if we like.

I have to work through my existing beliefs. I am motivated by a higher sense of purpose outside of myself. I may be gaming women and offering value to them, but offering value, and allowing women to have fun around me isn’t as solid of a thing as a higher sense of purpose.

I remember when Gambler wasn’t as big as he is now. I read an article by him, and I fell in love with his philosophy. Put yourself in situations that expose you to getting some skill or getting over some fear you have. If you are afraid of getting close to women, take a salsa class. If you are afraid of being the center of attention, take a speech class. If you are scared of looking silly, take an acting class. I love his philosophy.

AFC Adam did a talk for the South Florida Lair yesterday out here in South Beach Miami. It was awesome to say the least. He has invited me to be an approach coach at the bootcamp this weekend. I’ve realized that since I’ve always been motivated by some type of work related goal, I think my goal by the time I get out of college is to go and travel and to work for PUAtraining. Eventually, I’ll buy a house and possibly move away from Miami. We’ll see.

Braddock and AFC Adam are some of the best guys that are instructors that I’ve met, and I’ve met a lot of them.

I think when I go out, I am going to have the mindset that I want to be an instructor, so I must push myself as much as possible.

How hard do we need to fall to realize how much we want to succeed?

It seems to me that there are people who have ’success’ or ‘motivational’ product out there who have had instances in their life with which they were at a great disadvantage.

Do we really need to hit rock bottom in order to motivate ourselves?

I’m trying to push myself without having hit rock bottom. It’s only half-way working because I don’t have that same relentless drive that less fortunate successful people have had.

I need to have a relentless drive to succeed.

I have a relentless drive to succeed.

This past Spring 2008 semester, I had taken 4 classes which had required me to speak in front of the class. 2 of the classes were focused on being the center of attention, while with the other 2, the course required me to present topics in front of the class. The 2 classes which I had to be in front of the class most of the time were Public Speaking, and Introduction To Acting at FIU. The other 2 classes were Business Communication, and Introduction To Information Systems. The acting and speech classes taught me a couple of things.

We all have fear when we have to be the center of attention. From what I gathered from the classes, we are not judged as badly as we think, and people generally don’t remember or care if you did badly. People will remember you if you did well, and if you don’t do well again, they don’t really judge you. I also learned a couple of things about fear. In these situations I was forced to present in front of the class; I couldn’t back out of it. I had a great purpose, and that was to pass the class. If you have a strong purpose, and you can force yourself to do whatever it is you fear because of that, you are moving in the right direction. The funny thing with fear is that when you get up there, you know you’re going to have it, but as soon as you start, the fear is lessened. This definitely gives the person presenting power. If you go into a fearful situation knowing that the fear is only temporary and that as soon as you do it, the fear will nearly be gone, you empower yourself to absorb as much of the fear as you can.

I am converting this lesson into an affirmation especially for pickup:

Whenever I feel any type of fear, I am empowered to automatically and confidently do whatever it is I fear knowing that I only stand to gain.

The passion that I see Paul Potts sing with is like no other. If you have read any of Eckhart Tolle’s books like The Power Of Now, he talks about beauty and seeing it in everything around us. Paul Potts rendition of Nessun Dorma which was made famous by Luciano Pavarotti made me cry. Pavarotti has a great voice, but I’ve never seen anyone sing it like Potts did. Simply amazing - I can’t say any more.